Congratulations, you’re engaged! You’ve got a beautiful ring on your finger, a token of love from (hopefully) the man or woman of your dreams. But now what? Here’s my guide to the first steps towards your wedding or civil partnership and a wonderful future together!
This is the fun, but possibly also stressful part if you’re worried about people’s reactions!
Hopefully, you’ll enjoy telling people and all the reactions you get will be positive.
Make sure your engagement ring is safe
Have your ring resized if it’s too big or too small for you. The last thing you want is your shiny new ring slipping off without you realising it! It may be advisable to get it insured.
Decide how long you’ll be engaged for
When Dave and I got engaged, we were only 18. He was still in college and I had a Saturday afternoon job, but was looking for work with more hours. We were temporarily living at his Dad’s house before it was sold. It was quite apparent that this was going to be a long engagement. At points, it felt like the wedding was never going to happen, it felt like we were engaged so long (5 years in total). Yet some people are engaged longer and are perfectly happy with this.
So that’s the first step. Get an idea of whether it’s going to be a long engagement, or if you’re going to get married in a year, a few months, or a few weeks (I’ve heard of it being done!)
Set a date
If you can, set a date. When people congratulate you on your engagement, I found that one of the first things they ask you is when you’re getting married!
Discuss with your partner which year you both want to get married in as well as if there’s a particular time of year or a significant date on which you may want to make your vows.
My husband and I met on 26th June 2008 and I love that time of year, so although we couldn’t determine a year at the beginning of our engagement, we soon decided that we’d marry on that date.
If you don’t have Pinterest already, then you have to get it! I spent hours finding different ideas and pinning them, as well as beautiful pictures of hair, makeup and dresses. Pinterest is a fantastic place for wedding inspiration. I don’t think I could have planned quite as a wonderful day as I did without it! You can get started by having a look at my Wedding board!
Weddings generally cost a lot of money, especially if like me you’re not lucky enough to have any photographers, florists etc. in the family. Even if you’re going for a low-budget wedding, it’s best to start trying to save some money as soon as possible!
Most of all, enjoy being engaged! Don’t get carried away too much with wedding planning, try not to get overly stressed about it and just enjoy being together.