Collaborative Post¦ Sometimes, we see a couple and just know that they are destined to be together. They fit together like perfect puzzle pieces, and they make relationships look like a breeze. A perfect relationship is what many of us aspire to have; however, there’s no recipe for a perfect relationship, and sometimes, they can be hard work.
Unexpected things happen that can quickly strain a relationship and add unwanted pressures. Often, these pressures can be hard to manage, and relationships can break down. Thankfully, there are some ways to manage the hardships and get through them.
Perhaps the most obvious resolution to relationship woes is to communicate. This way, even the most minor of details can be discussed and resolved. However, even though it’s obvious, not many couples have strong lines of communication, which can easily lead to a relationship breakdown. By talking with your partner, you will understand them in more depth. You can remember the little things, appreciate every moment, and be on the same page with one another. It also means you can be totally transparent with your partner, making you both feel more confident in your relationship.
Unfortunately, when there is no communication, you don’t know what each other is thinking. This can lead to overthinking and secrets. Secrets are certainly no good for any relationship, especially one that is meant to last a lifetime. Secrets can be anything minor, like sneaking sweets on your diet, or they can be far more severe, like infidelity. To determine if a secret is bad for a relationship, you really need to consider why you’re keeping it from a partner. Infidelity is perhaps the worst secret for a relationship as it can create lasting effects. Even if infidelity occurs, telling your partner as soon as possible is better than keeping it secret. At least by telling a partner, outcomes can be discussed, whereas a secret can cause more problems as time goes on.
If you’re communicating well, you will know your partner’s love language. Love languages may be physical gifts, touch, or acts of service. When you do something in your partner’s love language, they will appreciate you more as you have listened to what they really like and know how to make them happy. This could be as simple as cooking one night and doing the dishes or walking past a shop and picking up a small gift. It could even be something like putting a scrapbook together of your first date.
When you do something thoughtful for your partner, it also shows that you respect them. It shows that you love them as you’re willing to take the time and do something special for them. It’s also a great way to bond with one another and bring yourselves closer together.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, they say, and it’s true. Spending time away from your partner gives you a chance to miss each other. It also gives you both an opportunity to reflect on your relationship. You can think of all of the good things that have happened recently and perhaps some things you would like to work on. Relationships aren’t easy but time away gives you a breather. Being together 24/7 can be stressful!
Time alone is also great for our mental health. You can do whatever you want for a bit without having to consider anyone else. Time alone could be as simple as binging a TV show all day without any distractions. It could also be doing a favourite hobby or going shopping. A partner shouldn’t get in the way of hobbies, and you shouldn’t get in the way of theirs. This time apart is excellent for both of you!
Every relationship is different, and what works for some may not work for others. It may take some time to find the right recipe for your relationship. Still, with clear lines of communication, space, and understanding of love languages, there’s a strong chance a relationship will succeed.
Disclosure: This is a collaborative post.
Welcome to my blog! I'm Laura, a 29 year old mum of two. I live in Kent with my high school sweetheart husband Dave, our daughter Autumn and newborn son Reuben.
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