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21st February 2017

Our disastrous first post-baby date night

During my pregnancy we didn’t really go out and have dates to make the most of our time as a couple before Autumn arrived. This was because I just felt bad in one way or another throughout the whole pregnancy! Autumn is now almost 5 months old and we felt as though it might be time we went on our first post-baby date night. Knowing that my mum was going to be off work due to half term, we asked my parents if they would be able to look after her one evening for us. 

So last Thursday, Dave took Autumn down to my parents’ house while I was in the bath starting to get ready. I decided that I was going to dress up, even though it was only local cinema and a restaurant we were going to go to. He comes back so often to me in smeared mascara, PJs and messy hair that I thought it would be nice for him to see me making an effort for him.

I rushed around so that it would be a surprise that I wasn’t just throwing on some jeans and a jumper. I put on a skin-tight little black dress, heels and far more perfume than I usually use. I managed to put on my jewellery and almost finish my makeup by the time he got back home. He was pleasantly surprised! He told me that Autumn was asleep in her car seat when she left, but when she woke up my parents had a play mat for her. It transpired that it was actually my old play mat from when I was her age. My Dad had got it out of the loft and my Mum had washed it for her!

After I had glued on my fake eyelashes and curled my hair, we were ready to go. We’d decided to go and see Fifty Shades Darker at the cinema. I thought it was pretty good, although a little slow at points. Dave didn’t have a very high opinion of it, he thought it was very slow-moving and bland. The whole time we were there I kept worrying about how Autumn was, but I did enjoy spending time as a couple again. It was a luxury being able to cuddle up to Dave without waiting for it to be abruptly ended by Autumn needing something.


We hadn’t decided where to go to dinner, but thought we might go to an Italian-American restaurant. However, when Dave looked at his phone, he saw a message from my Mum. It said “Autumn is ok, but please call me when the film is finished”. I instantly started worrying and feeling guilty. I called her and she told me that her and my Dad had tried everything. It seemed it was separation anxiety. Of course, I told her we’d be straight there.

When we arrived at my parents’ house, Autumn had finally stopped crying and was asleep. Her eyes kept slightly opening and she kept looking around, though. Once she’d seen me she settled down properly. By now, it was quarter to ten. I asked Dave if he could go to the chip shop and get some chips. I’d barely eaten all day as I’d been busy and had a very empty feeling stomach.

Dave came back a few minutes later empty handed, saying that the chip shop had closed early. Instead, we ordered Chinese food, eating it at 11.20pm. I had a bit of a stomach ache, but put it down to the tummy control pants I was wearing due to the slight mummy tummy I’m rocking these days.

When we went home, I really didn’t feel very good at all. I laid on the bed and felt like Dave was crowding me every time he tried to give me a hug. I went to the bathroom and proceeded to be sick in the bath, which poor Dave then cleaned while I recovered.

Our first date night really hadn’t gone to plan. Dave didn’t like the film, Autumn missed us and the night ended with me being sick! Still, there’s always next time, eh?

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26 responses to “Our disastrous first post-baby date night”

  1. palegirlrambling says:
    21st February 2017 at 8:02 am

    Awww I’m sorry your first date night didn’t work out! You looked lovely!! My friends daughter is so attached to her mumma, she’s nearly two now though so it’s becoming a bit of a problem. My friend never left her daughter with anyone as she was growing up so any time she leaves the room her daughter freaks out!! I think it’ll be good for Autumn to stay with your parents abit and show her mumma loves her but sometimes needs a bit of me time so she gets to play with granny and grandpa instead! (As much as it will be horribly hard for you!!) hope you get another date night soon!

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      21st February 2017 at 8:34 am

      Thank you ? I think it will be a case of having to do that, but maybe we’ll build up the amount of time she’s left for so that she gets more used to it.

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  2. Chief Baby Wrangler says:
    21st February 2017 at 3:44 pm

    Oh no, so sorry to hear that. You looked great though! And hopefully next time you’ll be able to stay out longer. I hope it isn’t too long until you get to try again!
    My husband and I have our first date night away from baby T… we’ll see how it goes!

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      21st February 2017 at 3:47 pm

      Thank you 🙂 I think we’ll try going out for a smaller period of time next time and build up the amount of time that she’s away from us.
      Good luck, I hope you enjoy it and that it goes better than ours! x

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  3. franbackwithabump says:
    22nd February 2017 at 3:25 pm

    Oh no what a disaster. All the more reason to have a second date night soon though!! #bestandworst

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  4. Mainy - myrealfairy says:
    22nd February 2017 at 6:03 pm

    Oh goodness sounds awful for all of you. Still, on the bright side, keep at it and it can only get better:) You looked great when you went out:)

    Mainy

    #bestandworst.

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      22nd February 2017 at 7:35 pm

      Thank you 🙂 Yes, hopefully next time will be better!
      Thanks for commenting x

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  5. alisonlonghurst says:
    23rd February 2017 at 9:09 am

    Don’t be put off! It’s typical that she was asleep by the time you arrived back. If your parents are willing, try again. They will be more confident now, knowing that she did actually fall asleep eventually 🙂 Alison x #StayClassyMama

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      23rd February 2017 at 11:38 am

      Thank you 🙂 I think it will be a case of trying again, but building up how much time we leave her for until she gets used to it x

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  6. Aleena Brown says:
    23rd February 2017 at 10:37 am

    Oh I’m so sorry that your night didn’t go to plan… And I agree with Alison; keep trying. You deserve it! #StayClassyMama

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      23rd February 2017 at 11:38 am

      Thanks Aleena and thank you for commenting 🙂 x

      Reply
  7. Natalie Redman says:
    23rd February 2017 at 5:16 pm

    Oh gosh! So sorry to hear you had a bad post-baby date! Hope everything is ok!

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      23rd February 2017 at 7:31 pm

      All is ok now thank you, Autumn is fine now that she knows she hasn’t been abandoned!
      Thanks for commenting x

      Reply
  8. Elaine @ Entertaining Elliot says:
    23rd February 2017 at 6:42 pm

    Oh no, what a night! I don’t remember the last time my husband and I had a night out by ourselves, we go out often with our groups of friends but never together! I’m not sure I could convince him to see Fifty Shades though 😉 Hope you manage to have another night out soon with better success and less vomit! xx #bestandworst

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      23rd February 2017 at 7:32 pm

      Haha, thank you. Me too!
      Thanks for your comment xx

      Reply
  9. jeremy@thirstydaddy says:
    24th February 2017 at 2:43 pm

    It gets easier. These nights are so important to keep your sanity and relationship healthy. Better luck next time! #stayclassy

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      24th February 2017 at 2:47 pm

      Thank you, that’s good to know! 🙂 Thanks for commenting x

      Reply
  10. Helen Gandy says:
    24th February 2017 at 10:26 pm

    Oh bless you!! You will soon enjoy date nights and going out trust me 🙂 I used to worry to begin with but now can’t wait to get out for adult time lol. Great post and thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      24th February 2017 at 10:36 pm

      Thank you, I hope so! 🙂 It’ll be better once we get her out of having separation anxiety. Thank you and thanks for commenting xx

      Reply
  11. Helena says:
    25th February 2017 at 8:00 pm

    Awwww sorry to read you had an awful experience. #bestandworst

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      25th February 2017 at 8:55 pm

      Thank you xx

      Reply
  12. A letter to my daughter at 5 months old – Autumn's Mummy says:
    27th February 2017 at 7:06 am

    […] aware of everything going on around you now, which is probably why you had separation anxiety when Daddy and I went on a date. When I took you to your first baby massage session last week, you hardly payed any attention to me […]

    Reply
  13. The Mum Project says:
    28th February 2017 at 6:13 pm

    Aw I’m sorry your night didn’t end up as planned! At least you got to see a movie, I know how hard it is being able to even schedule that in! You look great in your outfit, this has inspired me to surprise my boyfriend this weekend ; ) ?. Thanks for sharing with #stayclassymama!

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    • Autumn's Mummy says:
      28th February 2017 at 6:15 pm

      Thank you and I’m glad to have inspired you! 🙂 Hopefully we’ll have better luck next time.
      Thanks for commenting xx

      Reply
  14. Tina says:
    29th April 2017 at 9:16 am

    Aww sorry your night didn’t quite go to plan! But you looked lovely and got to see a film ? That’s something! Hopefully it’ll get easier with time xx

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  15. Mamma_B says:
    4th August 2017 at 9:18 pm

    Isn’t this always the way! Sorry it didn’t go to plan, adult time is so precious once you have babies. You’re obviously rocking it as a mamma though because Autumn couldnt bare being without you! We are yet to have a date night and our little treasure is 9 months – this has reminded me that we really should do something about that! I’ve lived in my pjs for 9 months, it would be good to have something to dress up for!!! Have a lovely weekend 🙂

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Welcome to my blog! I'm Laura, a mum of two. I live in Kent with my high school sweetheart husband Dave, our 5 year old daughter Autumn and 1 year old son Reuben.

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