During my pregnancy we didn’t really go out and have dates to make the most of our time as a couple before Autumn arrived. This was because I just felt bad in one way or another throughout the whole pregnancy! Autumn is now almost 5 months old and we felt as though it might be time we went on our first post-baby date night. Knowing that my mum was going to be off work due to half term, we asked my parents if they would be able to look after her one evening for us.
So last Thursday, Dave took Autumn down to my parents’ house while I was in the bath starting to get ready. I decided that I was going to dress up, even though it was only local cinema and a restaurant we were going to go to. He comes back so often to me in smeared mascara, PJs and messy hair that I thought it would be nice for him to see me making an effort for him.
I rushed around so that it would be a surprise that I wasn’t just throwing on some jeans and a jumper. I put on a skin-tight little black dress, heels and far more perfume than I usually use. I managed to put on my jewellery and almost finish my makeup by the time he got back home. He was pleasantly surprised! He told me that Autumn was asleep in her car seat when she left, but when she woke up my parents had a play mat for her. It transpired that it was actually my old play mat from when I was her age. My Dad had got it out of the loft and my Mum had washed it for her!
After I had glued on my fake eyelashes and curled my hair, we were ready to go. We’d decided to go and see Fifty Shades Darker at the cinema. I thought it was pretty good, although a little slow at points. Dave didn’t have a very high opinion of it, he thought it was very slow-moving and bland. The whole time we were there I kept worrying about how Autumn was, but I did enjoy spending time as a couple again. It was a luxury being able to cuddle up to Dave without waiting for it to be abruptly ended by Autumn needing something.
We hadn’t decided where to go to dinner, but thought we might go to an Italian-American restaurant. However, when Dave looked at his phone, he saw a message from my Mum. It said “Autumn is ok, but please call me when the film is finished”. I instantly started worrying and feeling guilty. I called her and she told me that her and my Dad had tried everything. It seemed it was separation anxiety. Of course, I told her we’d be straight there.
When we arrived at my parents’ house, Autumn had finally stopped crying and was asleep. Her eyes kept slightly opening and she kept looking around, though. Once she’d seen me she settled down properly. By now, it was quarter to ten. I asked Dave if he could go to the chip shop and get some chips. I’d barely eaten all day as I’d been busy and had a very empty feeling stomach.
Dave came back a few minutes later empty handed, saying that the chip shop had closed early. Instead, we ordered Chinese food, eating it at 11.20pm. I had a bit of a stomach ache, but put it down to the tummy control pants I was wearing due to the slight mummy tummy I’m rocking these days.
When we went home, I really didn’t feel very good at all. I laid on the bed and felt like Dave was crowding me every time he tried to give me a hug. I went to the bathroom and proceeded to be sick in the bath, which poor Dave then cleaned while I recovered.
Our first date night really hadn’t gone to plan. Dave didn’t like the film, Autumn missed us and the night ended with me being sick! Still, there’s always next time, eh?
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Awww I’m sorry your first date night didn’t work out! You looked lovely!! My friends daughter is so attached to her mumma, she’s nearly two now though so it’s becoming a bit of a problem. My friend never left her daughter with anyone as she was growing up so any time she leaves the room her daughter freaks out!! I think it’ll be good for Autumn to stay with your parents abit and show her mumma loves her but sometimes needs a bit of me time so she gets to play with granny and grandpa instead! (As much as it will be horribly hard for you!!) hope you get another date night soon!
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Thank you 😊 I think it will be a case of having to do that, but maybe we’ll build up the amount of time she’s left for so that she gets more used to it.
Oh no, so sorry to hear that. You looked great though! And hopefully next time you’ll be able to stay out longer. I hope it isn’t too long until you get to try again!
My husband and I have our first date night away from baby T… we’ll see how it goes!
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Thank you 🙂 I think we’ll try going out for a smaller period of time next time and build up the amount of time that she’s away from us.
Good luck, I hope you enjoy it and that it goes better than ours! x
Oh no what a disaster. All the more reason to have a second date night soon though!! #bestandworst
Oh goodness sounds awful for all of you. Still, on the bright side, keep at it and it can only get better:) You looked great when you went out:)
Mainy
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Thank you 🙂 Yes, hopefully next time will be better!
Thanks for commenting x
Don’t be put off! It’s typical that she was asleep by the time you arrived back. If your parents are willing, try again. They will be more confident now, knowing that she did actually fall asleep eventually 🙂 Alison x #StayClassyMama
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Thank you 🙂 I think it will be a case of trying again, but building up how much time we leave her for until she gets used to it x
Oh I’m so sorry that your night didn’t go to plan… And I agree with Alison; keep trying. You deserve it! #StayClassyMama
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Thanks Aleena and thank you for commenting 🙂 x
Oh gosh! So sorry to hear you had a bad post-baby date! Hope everything is ok!
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All is ok now thank you, Autumn is fine now that she knows she hasn’t been abandoned!
Thanks for commenting x
Oh no, what a night! I don’t remember the last time my husband and I had a night out by ourselves, we go out often with our groups of friends but never together! I’m not sure I could convince him to see Fifty Shades though 😉 Hope you manage to have another night out soon with better success and less vomit! xx #bestandworst
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Haha, thank you. Me too!
Thanks for your comment xx
It gets easier. These nights are so important to keep your sanity and relationship healthy. Better luck next time! #stayclassy
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Thank you, that’s good to know! 🙂 Thanks for commenting x
Oh bless you!! You will soon enjoy date nights and going out trust me 🙂 I used to worry to begin with but now can’t wait to get out for adult time lol. Great post and thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst
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Thank you, I hope so! 🙂 It’ll be better once we get her out of having separation anxiety. Thank you and thanks for commenting xx
Awwww sorry to read you had an awful experience. #bestandworst
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Thank you xx
Aw I’m sorry your night didn’t end up as planned! At least you got to see a movie, I know how hard it is being able to even schedule that in! You look great in your outfit, this has inspired me to surprise my boyfriend this weekend ; ) 🍷. Thanks for sharing with #stayclassymama!
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Thank you and I’m glad to have inspired you! 🙂 Hopefully we’ll have better luck next time.
Thanks for commenting xx
Aww sorry your night didn’t quite go to plan! But you looked lovely and got to see a film 😊 That’s something! Hopefully it’ll get easier with time xx
Isn’t this always the way! Sorry it didn’t go to plan, adult time is so precious once you have babies. You’re obviously rocking it as a mamma though because Autumn couldnt bare being without you! We are yet to have a date night and our little treasure is 9 months – this has reminded me that we really should do something about that! I’ve lived in my pjs for 9 months, it would be good to have something to dress up for!!! Have a lovely weekend 🙂