Collaborative Post¦ Being a parent means that we have to keep track of so many spinning plates. Maybe we need to focus on our children eating well, or ensuring that we are providing that nurturing environment for our children to grow up in; when we are learning how to do all of this, and life throws us a curveball, we’ve got to learn how to cope with this. A lot of parents can rely on the grandparents, but what happens when they aren’t able to lend a hand at all, but are also succumbing to illnesses themselves? This puts a lot of pressure on you, and if you are only just learning how to cope with everything yourself, this means a lot of life lessons coming all at once. Are there any ways that we can deal with aging parents in a healthy and emotional manner?
Some people have no problem asking for help, but others are forever embracing a stiff upper lip approach. We have to ask for help. And this is especially true when going through the difficult moments in life when our parents are getting too frail to look after themselves. Care homes in abundance, and it can be a very difficult thing to try and find the right one. But there are places like Porthaven that you can go to and explain your personal and emotional predicaments. Their priority is the health of your parent. And after all, it’s not a unique thing you are going through. Asking for help in a professional sense is something that will come along eventually, no matter how much you try to resist it. We just need to decide at what points we are unable to keep up the pretence.
Sometimes, we are just built for anxiety. Everything gets on top of us. But while learning to ask for help is something we all need to understand will benefit us on an individual level, if we feel that we are being pulled in so many different directions, especially when we have our own children to raise, we need to step back and look at the pressure points that can cause us to crack. Being a parent at the best of times is stressful. And if you throw into the mix your own personal pressures, you can slowly lose track of who you are. Learning to handle stress is all about understanding your own specific triggers, but also turning this into a daily practice. After a while, we can expand our ability to cope with stressful situations. There are things that we can all do. It’s all about expanding our comfort zone. And that’s not to say that being stressful should be the norm, but it’s a better understanding when you are unable to cope anymore, which is why you need to ask for help, but also understand what can calm you down. Being in the eye of the storm is a terrible place to live. But we can gain some positivity from it if we learn how to cope with the pressures that come our way.
It’s always a learning curve, but when we have to start looking after the people who were looking after us, it can be quite an eye-opener.
Disclosure: This is a collaborative post.
Welcome to my blog! I'm Laura, a 29 year old mum of two. I live in Kent with my high school sweetheart husband Dave, our daughter Autumn and newborn son Reuben.
I write about my experiences of parenting, as well as my plethora of interests including fashion, beauty, cars, weddings, mental health and the home.